Don’t fall victim to one of the greatest lies ever
So you’re here wondering what you need to have a fun social circle and be a celebrity in your sphere of influence. You want to be likeable, popular, and be sought after? You want to feel more connected with your life? Don't skip square 1 or you'll never get there or have a shaky house of cards.
This isn’t a make friends quick scheme it’s a make relationships for life. People who will pick up when you call. Quality relationships is what matters in your social circle. We want to be plotting 5 moves ahead to build the social circle of your dreams but it all starts with this important building block in your foundation, who do you see when you look in the mirror?
Is he the celebrity in your own life? Do you know him as a genuinely good person?
Go ahead, try it. Look in the mirror and say out loud, “Are you the celebrity in my own life?” and “Are you a genuinely good person” “Would you buy this person a drink” “Are you full of this person” Now wait and see what rises up in you.
Once you’ve done that take a breath and lets talk about it.
In my early 20's when I was deciding what my values were I had a predicament. I thought to myself, If I had an opportunity to get ahead by doing something dishonest or morally wrong and it didn't hurt anybody directly do I take the opportunity?
I wrestled with this question for a while. Years later, after a lot of adversity and character formation I can unequivocally answer that question. There's only one world that exists for me, and all that that matters is how I feel in that world. How I feel when I look in the mirror or inside myself at the end of the day.
You want to to be magnetic:
Well then the goal is that I’m the celebrity in my own life, and that I’m a genuinely good person and my actions back it up. That’s called congruence.
If you're a genuinely good person with the right time horizon and strategies, which will be the focus of coming posts and videos, you're going to attract the people into your life that were meant for you
Start by making the decision that you want to be a genuinely good person and feel good about yourself. Integrity comes up for me here, but integrity is a more important internal trait than what you'd expect. For me it means doing what you say you're going to do.
If you say you're a genuinely good person, then what do you do when no-one is watching, what are you going to do when the chance to lie in business to get ahead happens, what do you do when someone is getting bullied in a bar, what do you do when you see an unseemly outcast of society needing help.
One of the great lies told to us was that the people that got ahead had to get dishonest to get there. Some of you might even read that statement and disagree that that's a lie. That's how pernicious and prevalent this was woven into life.
In closing our internal world is all that is exists, so that is all that matters… that in our world we know ourselves to be genuinely good people. This is character. Character is earned and people can feel if you are one who paid the price for it.
From this starting point we can now start to build ourselves and social life into one of our loftiest of dreams.